My great grandmother is now safe in a home where people can watch over her. This was after she was being tossed around like a bag of potatoes from place to place. My grandma, a wheelchair-bound, at best the bad guy in your most annoying nightmare, has once again managed to remind everyone why they can not stand her.
My great grandmother had given up much of her life to her daughter (my grandma). With her daughter in a wheel chair, my Nina decided to give up her social life completely and keep a domestic home for herself, her daughter, and any other freeloading family member that might take refuge in her home as the years went by. My grandma needs assistance with everything, from bathing to getting into bed. My Nina is only 4’9 and at most 135 pounds. My grandma is…well she’s a whole lot of woman (or something that resembles a woman, idk). All these years my Nina woke up before everyone else, watered her plants, made breakfast, fed the dogs, took care of us kids, and kept that mother’s concern when it came to everyone in the family that was around on a daily basis.
This year her health declined rather quickly and our family started to behave as though they were on reality television. Her son and daughter proved to be the characters that they had always been. Her son, a greedy, interest seeking, sociopath. And her daughter, a leech at best.
I know, I’m being a bit mean. But I am in a way angry for my Nina. My Nina is weak in a home, surrounded by these clowns who are playing tug-o-war with her things. My grandma doesnt want to move into the home with her because she doesnt want to give up her “freedom”. She’s been taking her handicap bus to her center, selling mexican bread, going to church, and making trips to walmart. This to her is freedom.
I would like to take a moment and view things from my grandma’s point of view. Maybe my grandma knows everyone has only been around for my Nina. While my Nina’s health is declining maybe my grandma feels that if my Nina passes away everyone would put her in a home somewhere to rot away. No visits, no freedom to go to walmart..? but i get it. She probably feels like it is her time to stand up for herself. All those times that her children have called asking to talk to their mother, but meaning to talk to my Nina. Maybe it all wore her down. She probably never got past the worst moments in her life and it soon became her. She was all those moments, there was no coming back. She was not compromised to some bad behavior. She produced it and that was all that there was. She had no rebuttal. Seems pretty miserable.
The most important thing is to be loyal to the ones who have been loyal to you. No matter what. Life is short, we are only here not even a mentionable fragment of Earth’s history, why not love and care for all that time. That “freedom” that my grandma is so fond of…she’s forgetting that she is free to be a good person too, even if it is only her and her mother know it. This was her chance to rebuttal and she failed. She feels justified because everyone hates her, justified because she’s going to church, justified because she has nothing to lose. But she is not. From an outside perspective, anyway. People get carried away and don’t realized that everyday you are revealing to the world who you are.
My Nina is only happy when my grandma is around, oddly. My grandma does not see that right now she is the world to someone.